The Blaze writer Tiffany Gabbay posted a story last week about a father that did the unthinkable – he abandoned his son in a foreclosed house while he skipped town.
But before we get our mock “father of the year” stamps out – this story is more complicated than it seems on the surface.
Steven Alexander Cross, the 60 year old Minnesota father, left his Lakeville home in the middle of the night, but without his 11 year old son. The son found a couple of letters – one to the son and one to Cross’ neighbor. In the letter to his son, Cross wrote:
If this paper is wet it’s because I am crying so bad. You know your dad loves you more than anything. This economy got (illegible) there are no jobs for architects so I have to go because the sheriff (sic) will take the house July 27. There will be no more for me. Some good news is your mother is alive. Though I do not think it is for the best. Give these letters to (the neighbor). Do not open them. I hope they get to give you a chance. There are many great years ahead for you. Not so for me.
The other letter was for Cross’ former neighbor, asking them to take guardianship of the 11 year old son. The son will be placed with a relative.
The son doesn’t know much about his family – he lived with his father and was told (up until the letter) that his mother was dead. A child protection petition names Katik Porter as the mother, but authorities have yet to find her. Steven was awarded full custody with visitation for the mother in 2001. The mother never used her visitation right, and the visitation privilege was suspended in 2002.
Steven Alexander Cross is now being charged with gross misdemeanor of child neglect, but authorities still don’t know where he is. He’s been tracked to California, from an e-mail he sent to his alleged ex-girlfriend, who had taken the son back in July when Steven disappeared. In the e-mail, Cross described himself as “hopelessly depressed.”
So – you see that the story is not as easy as a dirtbag father walking out on his son. What do you think? Is Steven Alexander Cross still a dirtbag? Clearly, he didn’t go about this situation the right way. Cross should have started with some sort of social services to treat his depression. No one thinks clearly when they’re depressed. This is a sad story – and while Cross might still be a bad father for abandoning his son – who should be the love of his life – you wonder what it must be like to know your son will not have a home soon. If anything, this is a reason for us all to think about the future and the amount of money we’re setting aside for a rainy day.
Sauce: The Blaze