Stay-At-Home-Dads Double, Stigma Still Exists
My Fox Houston recently covered Stay-At-Home-Dads, and note that the number of SAHDs has doubled in the last decade. They even mention one of our Twitter BFFs, Adam Shroeder, who owns Hanging With Dad.
Though My Fox Houston claims that the stigmas are fading, they also, by nature of covering the issue, prove that it’s not. And then there’s this – another one of the fathers they interviewed, Harlan Sparrow, says “It’s so unexpected that people give you ten times the credit for doing what a woman does on a regular basis all the time.”
I always hate reading that sentiment – and I know it’s one that’s shared pretty commonly by most involved fathers. But I’d like to suggest that it’s not that people are giving fathers “ten times the credit for what a woman does,” but that people are giving good mothers ten times less credit than they deserve. See what I did there? Dads are getting what they should be – but good mothers aren’t getting the credit they deserve. What’s happened is that society expects all mothers to be good – which is as ridiculous as saying all African Americans should be good at basketball – and thus, we’re not celebrating good parents in general. There’s good moms and bad moms – there’s good dads and bad dads. No one should be getting a free ride here – and we need to be celebrating both moms and dads that go the extra mile, and not celebrating the parents that don’t. Too often, as Sparrow insinuates, good dads end up feeling uncomfortable in public when they’re looked at as rare specimen.
In other words – stop looking at dads in public as a pleasant anomaly. We’re just doing what we know is right. Instead, let’s all point and stare at the bad parents and make them uncomfortable.
In any event – if you want to read more – then you’re in luck, there’s a whole story about it at the sauce link! Congrats to Shroeder for getting some face-time on television.