Shmi to Anakin (Episode I @ 75:20) / © 1999 Lucasfilm Ltd.

07) “What does your heart tell you?”

Another shot of emotional wisdom from Shmi.

In this scene, Anakin asks his mother, “Will I ever see you again?”. Faith is very important to children and it doesn’t have to be about religion. We teach our kids about fictional figures like the Tooth Fairy, Santa Claus, Easter Bunny and Cupid (sorry believers) – characters that may be related to a religious significance but stand alone hard enough to become financially exploitable.

I digress.

A child’s imagination is so powerful that belief is an essential element of trust. Anakin’s trust was shattered in Episode II *spoiler alert* when he saw his mother again only to have her die in his arms. Shmi’s role was self-sacrificing when she agreed to remain a slave in trade for Anakin’s freedom. I think any decent parent would have done the same.

Believe in your own thoughts.

Obi-Wan to Anakin (Episode I @ 85:50) / © 1999 Lucasfilm Ltd.

08) “We should be patient.”

My wife and I were worried when our daughter seemed to plateau in her development around 16 months. We were concerned about how many words she knew and where her milestones should be compared to charts, websites, books and even our doctor’s timeline. We were told to be patient.

By learning that it’s okay to be patient with my daughter, I’ve noticed that she is becoming less frustrated when she doesn’t understand a new word or a new challange. She’s 21 months now and I enjoy the sh*t out of her passion for knowledge.

Mace to Anakin (Episode I @ 90:25) / © 1999 Lucasfilm Ltd.

09) “Be mindful of your feelings.”

In this scene, Mace Windu throws down the line to an emo Anakin who is wrapped in guilt after leaving his mother behind to become a Jedi. So far we’ve learned that your feelings have potential to be a powerful life force, but did you know they can also drive you to do crazy sh*t?

Of course you did.

What we understand here is that there are times when our feelings can deceive us, where they have potential to amplify our actions. Sometimes those feelings aren’t always correct and we may, in turn, abuse power, much like Anakin does in Episode III. To be mindful is to be responsible of this power you posses. Stop and think before you react (and possibly overreact) to your child – think about how they will eventually model your behavior as they learn.

Yoda to Anakin (Episode I @ 90:40) / © 1999 Lucasfilm Ltd.

10) “Fear leads to anger.. anger leads to hate.. hate leads to suffering.”

I love technology. I believe it gives us opportunity to expand the garden of our mind. We are still internet noobs in the grand schematic of evolution, so we continue to fine tune our database of prenatal and postnatal care.

Fear is common among new parents due to the pressure of raising the “perfect baby”. There’s an unwritten rule among parents that we should be concerned if our child deviates from the ‘average spectrum’ of a milestone chart. We can’t all be hipster robots, twist our mustache and go about our business, so some of us will freak out. And hey, that’s okay – it’s normal to fear the worst.

But is fear really the path to suffering? I think it really all depends on how you roll with life’s punches, because there will be punches. No one’s stopping you from checking on your child in the middle of the night to see if he/she is still breathing, but you’re taking away focus.

Qui-Gon to Anakin (Episode I @ 95:30) / © 1999 Lucasfilm Ltd.

11) “Your focus determines your reality.”

This is some serious Jedi sh*t, which actually goes along quite well with 1) Don’t center on your anxiety. Keep your concentration here and now where it belongs. Thinking positively and visualizing your goals generates focus and brings reality to you.

When I was young, I heard “the way you practice the way you play” a lot. When I played guitar and sang in bands, I attributed what I learned from my time playing sports to music. Really, it helped in all aspects of my life and your focus determining your reality is no different.