According to a recent study in the United Kingdom, over half of dads will fake sleep so that they don’t have to get up in the middle of the night for kid duty.
Trigger warning for those parents who love sleep and/or their partners, obvi.
Personal care corporation overlord Kimberly-Clark Worldwide either conducted or commissioned the study via their bedwetting solutions brand DryNites. The study or press release is nowhere to be found online, but from what I found:
- 2,000 fathers were polled.
- 56% admitted to faking sleep so they won’t have to get up at night.
- 44% of the above 56% said they knew faking sleep would mean their partner would get up instead.
- 21% said they simply can’t be bothered to get up.
- 26% said they’re too tired to get up.
- Almost one third of fathers said that they refuse to get up because they’ve got work in the morning.
- 1 in 10 fathers believed that their partner is actually better at dealing with whatever the situation may be.
- 1 in 5 fathers said that the kids only call for mom.
- One fifth of the fathers said they avoid waking up specifically for night feeds, nightmares, teething problems, a lost doll or bedwetting.
- 14% said that getting up for night duty is a job left specifically for them.
- 31% said that getting up for night duty is shared between dad and mum.
- 43% of parents said that deciding who gets up has caused fights.
It’s not clear how the survey participants were found and surveyed.
I’m admittedly ignorant about Kimberly-Clark brands abroad, but the DryNites site has links to Huggies products, so I’m assuming they’re related. And – big sigh – we’ve written about Huggies here before with mixed results. We wonder if this poll were done in the United States, if it would yield similar results.
UK dad blogger Henry Elliss talked about the survey on his site too, advising that in “studies” like these, “the brand who commissions the research usually has the result in mind when commissioning it, and simply asks questions that get them to that result.”
“So basically,” Elliss concluded, “the nappy brand who released this research … almost certainly knew they were heading towards this ‘dads are lazy bastard’ angle when they put the research together.”
I didn’t ask if Elliss gets up in the middle of the night for kid duty. We just nodded to each other, stone-faced, and went back to our work.
Let us know in the comments if you get up in the middle of the night for kid duty. We won’t judge you.