We skipped this one last week but knew that somehow, we’d have to come back to it: the quality of a father’s parenting will have an effect on a …
Dr. Peggy Drexler, author of the new book Our Fathers, Ourselves, and chick we’ve talked about before, hooked up HuffPo with a discussion on growing up fatherless, and the questions it created. First and foremost, her lack of a father drove Drexler to get a degree in psychology, get a PhD and write a book.
Behind her was a strong mom. But even losing a father at a young age, (Drexler was 3 years old when her father died of a heart attack) the effect of a father lives on. Whether it is positive or negative, something happens to a daughter without a father. It either drives her or destroys her.
Years ago, I worked for a men’s and fathers’ issue radio show called “His Side with Glenn Sacks“. And make no mistakes – it was the LARGEST men’s and fathers’ issues show in America at that time. Of course, it was one of the few men’s issues shows, largely because of the “boys don’t cry” mentality of America, and the assumption that men simply don’t have issues, and if they do, it’s because they caused them.
In any event, Robert Franklin, Esq. recently put up an article about domestic violence and “intimate terrorism,” which I at first thought was a sexy bedroom game. As Franklin explains, I’m wrong (go figure); intimate terrorism “is psychological or physical abuse that is intended to – and does – control the behavior of the other partner.”
His article is a good read, and it got me thinking about how we teach our daughters, as a society, that it’s okay to hit men.