Domestic Violence is always a tricky subject for men and fathers. Though it is a fact that men are also victims of domestic violence, it is under-reported and hard to track actual cases and statistics. Obama’s got a figure for National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, saying that “one in four women and one in thirteen men will experience domestic violence in their lifetime.” I’d bet that the number for men is higher – because men don’t consider being slapped or pushed as an act of domestic violence. And if a man were to call the police after being slapped by a woman, I’m sure the first question would be “what did you do to get slapped?”
In any event, Mike Snyder-Barker has an interesting run-down on the Daily Telegram about how fathers can help reduce domestic violence. The beginning of the article is kind of the standard DV talk of “don’t beat your wife in front of your kids.” Okay, check. Got it.
Most of the time, we B.S. here on 8BitDad, and talk about daily news for fathers, or let you know about some father that’s done something good or bad. Well, this one’s important.
And before we even cover this, I’ll tell you right now – the rest of this man’s blog is incredibly NSFW. As in, click the sauce below, but do not go roaming around his site.
So – “this man” as I’m calling him, since I can’t find his name anywhere, tells a story on his website called “Damage” – and if you haven’t yet been tipped off by the title, the theme is abuse.
As the story goes, Jacob Mitchell and Pamela Stanley are married (or aren’t, if you’re one of those “need proof” types), but definitely have a child. Mitchell and Stanley …
Long story short, Amber pushed Joshua out of their apartment window – which was 25 stories up (17 stories up from a parking garage). Joshua died from the fall.
The basic story: A North Carolina man, David Green Jr., (who we have no background info on), was decapitated by his girlfriend and kids. His body was kept in …
Years ago, I worked for a men’s and fathers’ issue radio show called “His Side with Glenn Sacks“. And make no mistakes – it was the LARGEST men’s and fathers’ issues show in America at that time. Of course, it was one of the few men’s issues shows, largely because of the “boys don’t cry” mentality of America, and the assumption that men simply don’t have issues, and if they do, it’s because they caused them.
In any event, Robert Franklin, Esq. recently put up an article about domestic violence and “intimate terrorism,” which I at first thought was a sexy bedroom game. As Franklin explains, I’m wrong (go figure); intimate terrorism “is psychological or physical abuse that is intended to – and does – control the behavior of the other partner.”
His article is a good read, and it got me thinking about how we teach our daughters, as a society, that it’s okay to hit men.